On my recent post reasons why a blogger declines to review your book and have you on their blog (which, unlike this diatribe is a fantastic post that if you haven’t already then you should check out) Yvonne from Me and My Books commented that the post was very professional but that she also likes it when I rant. Well…….if that’s not an invitation for me to rant away then I don’t know what is?!? Gotta keep the fans happy after all, I don’t have many!
So, here goes let’s lose some followers! Rant time baby!
The above gif signifies my follower count falling off the cliff and the gif below shows me not giving a fuck as I don’t blog for followers or stats.
I’ve seen and read a few things recently that have really ground my gears and pissed me off and can only be described as snowflake inspired fuckwit nonsense.
I’ll start with this. I have a name, my mother and my father (God rest his soul) gave it to me when I was born. Everyone else has a name too, are you shocked?! I’m not! Mine is Drew, hello! If you prefer you can call me asshole, fucker, cunt or that dickhead with a blog!
If a blogger wants their name to be used in contact by an author it is NOT conceited nor is it narcissistic! I’ve heard, read and seen some bullshit in my time but as far as blogging goes, that pearl of wisdom or if you prefer, a pile of garbage that wanting to be referred to by your name is conceited is right up there with the best.
Using someone’s name is common fucking courtesy and it is not narcissistic behaviour to want to be addressed by your name in contact!
Riddle me this, if your blog about page and/or review policy has your name on it then why shouldn’t an author use it when contacting you after checking out your blog?! There is no reason at all! Oh, I’m sorry, is that conceited of me, how very bad of me, I do humbly apologise for offending you and your delicate sensibilities revolving around equality. Give. A. Fuck.
If authors treated bloggers as equal then they would use their name in contact, many do, many do not but it is politeness, plain and simple! Lots of us have had our fair share of generic mass emails that we would like our name to be used not for the purpose of feeling like a god or goddess but solely to show that the author has bothered to check out our blog before contacting us. Conceited, self-centred and narcissistic behaviour?! I think not.
As the proverb goes, people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones and maybe, just maybe if you had received some of the generic, mass and genuinely shoddy contact that others have been unfortunate enough to be sent whilst blogging then you wouldn’t be so quick to judge and cast aspersions over other bloggers behaviour!
OK folks, those of you reading this, do you think it’s narcissistic of us to want authors to use our name when contacting us? Or are you, like me, already a narcissist and a self-centred and conceited bastard?
Chant with me gang!
One of us! One of us! One of us! One of us!
Or, as Eminem rapped.
Hi! My name is (what?)
My name is (who?)
My name is Slim Shady
Hi! My name is (huh?)
My name is (what?)
My name is Slim Shady
Or, as Destiny’s Child sang.
Say my name, say my name
Yes, I’m scared that I know that too! Let’s put it down to I’m well educated, clever and well versed in music.
Bloggers wanting a little respect from authors isn’t them being conceited nor is it them treating authors like they are beneath them!
Technically, every time a blogger has an author on their blog they are doing them a favour. Likewise, by giving the blogger a free book and/or blog post the author is doing the blogger a favour by giving them a free book and/or blog content.
It seems crass to say that though, a favour, no, it’s best and true to say that it is beneficial to both bloggers and authors when they choose to work together. BOTH!
Right, now that BS has been addressed let’s look at this. Just because people have different views it does NOT mean that they are trying to cause a division within the community! People are allowed different opinions, it is life and if everyone thought the same and had the same opinion then, simply put, it would be boring! Or if you prefer BAF, my acronym that stands for Boring. As. Fuck.
If you are looking for people who cause a division in the book blogging community then don’t look at bloggers like me and similar (yeah, I’m referencing me, conceited, I think not as it’s my own blog) look at those bloggers who charge for reviews! They are the ones causing a division. They are the ones saying ‘I’m better than you’ as they feel like they have a right to charge for what many others do for free!
Riddle me this, what makes them any better than the countless other bloggers who review for free?! And don’t tell me that their stats are impressive and that that is why they charge unless they show us we don’t know that! What justification do they have! None! They may well get fewer page views than us, we don’t know! They are the ones putting themselves on a pedestal, proclaiming that they are above others and dividing the community into bloggers who charge and bloggers who don’t charge for reviews, not those of us who, on occasion have different views and show some individuality.
Notice how I’ve shown those bloggers who charge for reviews some respect in this post and that I haven’t referred to them by the name I came up with for them of book hooker! You see, book hooker is a term to describe bloggers who charge, a book hooker and not a blogger. However, I was pulled up on my use of the term, book hooker is the term as it shamed sex workers. I was accused of calling them (on SM for the world to see) less than human just for using the term book hooker! I guess I should have visited the blogger’s blog who did it but alas, I’m not that sad and I have better things to do with my time than visit blogs to hate on posts.👌
So, for this post, I haven’t used the term book hooker to describe bloggers who charge, nope, not called them a book hooker at all, not once!
Just so that we are crystal on the subject. Not once have I called a blogger who charges a book hooker, you got that? Good. Though, I’m fairly certain that the only people who would take offence at the term book hooker to describe a blogger who charges is one and if that’s the case, touché. I have offended you and you offend me by charging for reviews.
But, if you genuinely don’t like the term then let me offer you these choices, book fucker? Book sucker? Book muncher? Better?!
Trying to cause division in the community for having individual views, don’t make me fucking laugh. I mean, really, the BS express has been producing some grade A turds recently. It’s choo-choo all aboard the shit train to turdsville!
Likewise, just because people have different views or blog in a different way it doesn’t make them negative influences on the community! For people who preach individuality and equality let people be fucking individual by blogging how they want!
If people want to be negative on their blog and on their SM feed then that is their choice! There can’t be positive without negative. The two go hand in hand together and you cannot have one without the other.
There is bound to be negativity in the book blogging community don’t be naive and tell me that there isn’t! There is negativity in every aspect and walk of life. It is how it is. The world isn’t full of sunshine and rainbows so why should the book blogging community be?! It wouldn’t! It’s not a microcosm that is immune to the negativity that plagues the world.
You don’t want to be part of the negativity, that’s fine, hide your head in the sand and let it pass you by but don’t blatantly lie and say that there isn’t negativity and if people want to be negative at times then let them!
There are enough twidiots and twunts who infest social media with their nonsense BS and yet are popular not to piss and moan just because some choose on occasion to be negative.
I don’t understand the whole hating on people being negative if someone wants to moan then let them! It’s not wrong of them to express their view. You are actually being negative by putting constraints on what a blogger should post on their feeds. Again, it’s BS. Listen up snowflakes you don’t like it, don’t read it!
A lot of bloggers say that they find blogging to be hard at times and it is but I’m tired of seeing people, often other bloggers themselves telling those bloggers that if they find it hard then quit! At times life is fucking hard but you don’t fucking quit it at the first bit of hardship that comes your way.
Lots of us have scars from hardship and pain, doesn’t mean that we quit and it doesn’t make you special. There is nothing wrong with bloggers stating that blogging can be or is currently hard for them, it’s their opinion and thoughts are you seriously telling me that they shouldn’t express those thoughts?!
You endure, ride the wave, take the rough with the smooth and carry on! If a blogger truly isn’t enjoying blogging anymore then, yes, they should take a break and consider their options which could possibly result in them quitting but telling people to quit just because they’ve mentioned on social media or in a post that blogging is hard for them at the moment, no, that’s not on.
The fact that people tell other bloggers to quit when they are having a rough patch just goes to show that this community isn’t as positive, as supportive or as helpful as many make it out to be. I’m finding blogging hard, no, we are here for you if you want to talk, no, we’ve got your back just the BS that is quit! Well, fuck you! Blogging can be hard but that doesn’t mean that the blogger wants to or needs to quit!
I’ve found blogging hard myself and even after two years I still doubt the quality of my reviews. If you find blogging hard then I won’t tell you to quit, I’ve got your back.👌 And, to those that do tell others to quit try picking people up instead of putting them the fuck down!
One thing that really annoys me is when people (just like with SM) come on to and read a bloggers blog post and then take offence over certain words and how the post itself has been written.
Oh no! You’ve found a word insulting, rude, derogatory, disrespectful, hurtful, wounding, abusive, objectionable, displeasing, annoying, exasperating, irritating, vexing, galling, provocative, provoking, humiliating, impertinent, impudent, insolent, personal, discourteous, uncivil, impolite, unmannerly, unacceptable, shocking, scandalous and outrageous, who cares!
People write differently! If everyone wrote blog posts in the same fucking way then blogging would be fucking boring! Individuality! That’s what blogging is about not thousands of carbon copies of the exact same post in the exact same way! Everyone has their own unique style, let them express themselves in their own way!
You are the one visiting the blog, if you like it then give them a follow. If you don’t then move on. Not every blogger will like everyone else’s blog and that is fine, it’s how it should be because we can’t like everything!
A blog is akin to a house, it’s the blogger’s blog like it’s the person’s house. You wouldn’t go into someone’s house, as a guest and subsequently start hating on them, don’t do it on someone’s blog either!
You know what I say to people who do that?! Bollocks!
There are many things in this world, many, many, many things that are absolutely vile, pure filth, utterly disgusting and offensive. Blog posts written in a way that is individual to that particular blogger and that don’t conform to some BS perceived stereotype are not one of them!
If you don’t like how a blogger writes on their own blog you need to realise that the issue isn’t with them, it is with you and you cannot expect them to change.
Some people, sadly and these are the conceited ones need to understand that there is a difference between things that are actually offensive and things that they have just taken offence at.
If you don’t like what someone posts then don’t continue reading it and don’t follow them! Don’t publicly hate on them because you have been offended by something that isn’t offensive and is only something that has offended you, singular because honey and because dude, the world doesn’t revolve around you!
Man up, women up and then pull up your big boy pants and your big girl pants and deal with it!
Are we even allowed freedom of expression and freedom of speech anymore?!
All I am is a blogger who writes from the heart and in their own way, on their own blog. If you don’t like it, don’t follow me, it’s simple really because it’s my own shitty little blog that never receives any recognition and anyone ever gives a fuck about and honestly, I am not going to change how I blog!
I do ask though if I’m not free to write posts how the fuck I want without repercussions because either my views are different, negative or someone has taken offence over my use of a certain word or term then I have to question what is the point of me even having a blog?!
I guess that some people are always going to be insulted and offended over something trivial and so, to conclude, I will reiterate this point, there is no need to hate. Every blogger is valued and their view valid and if you don’t like a blog and blogger then just don’t follow them.
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